N~ Tyese

WHEN THE STARS ALIGN HE'LL KNOW IT'S A PERFECT TIME. So, what girl at some point hasn't created her ideal wedding or perfect engagement?!? Although I never thought I'd be married or even get engaged. At some time or another (well if I'm honest- there has been plenty of times) Ha-Ha that I've mapped my wedding out from beginning to end. I had an idea for the dress, the pressure I'd put on my bridal party and the different ways I'd "Bond" with my future husband during the process. Speaking of the process, I have plenty of tea to share with you about that. A couple of to do's and not to do's lol.  BTW! No one's story is going to be the same. The absolute worst thing you can possibly do is put an image of the perfect proposal in your mind. It's too high of a standard for anyone to meet. Look for the authenticity and effort. If he knows you, even just a little he'll hit home! Or at least the doorstep. HA-HA. IT'S ALL ABO

        I'm sure at one time or another we can all relate to the calm after the storm. How amazingly humbling are the struggles! At this particular point in our marriage, the uphill battle had come to an end and we were embracing the calm. It was refreshing to feel. And, I never told my husband that there was a chance that I could be pregnant. I mean with all that was going on in life, we were finally finding ways to show that we loved each other again and able to feel the love. And it was amazing. Not to mention I was on birth control. Which never really means much, because it was only 99.9% effective. We were happier and so was the baby. Not ours, but theirs and she and I slowly became a piece of one another. In the middle of all the adjustments in life his first born child was left in our care for several months and we all learned to cope.  So my, I mean our lives altered. The task within itself was pretty large. But that'll be a convo for another blog! So stay tuned,    

I remember being a child and being hopeful for a great future. I was hopeful for the day I could successfully leave my parents’ home. I looked forward to the freedom; Freedom, of speech, freedom of dress and freedom of expression. Anyone that knew my mom knew that she considered no amendment but her own when making rules and regulating us as young adults. I can hear me now, attempting to justify my actions by saying “But Ma! It’s my First Amendment right.” And her responding, “Yea the first one to go!” Opinions, freedom and adventure weren’t the highest on our childhood food chain. I would dream of big stages, and boxing arenas, my own cosmetology business, or making my mark in the sand in the big city. But of all the things that I would dream, I never, ever, ever put emphasis on being married. I never glorified the life with a husband and a child. I adored nice clothing, nice hairstyles, good books, and watching women of power speak and inspire. I adored Maya